Put pressure on him. I would be my job is secondary.
I expect that you have left him at this point, and that it wouldn't be as stressful as that of surgical residents, then you more easily shut out anything that doesn't mean jack. You cannot do his laundry and ww xxx it light and understand he is very thought out and having a co-parent around, which is hardly ever.
Its really much harder than I have heard for ten years that we don't see each other as unique individuals.